You know that confidence thing I mentioned I need to work on? I’ve been trying to figure out where to start. I think this post made me realize, I should probably start by not constantly apologizing. I know that may seem weird, but I apologize too much. So I need to pull ‘I’m sorry’ from my vocabulary for awhile. It will be hard, because I think I say it almost as habit now.
I dated a girl once who got pissed off by how often I said “I’m sorry.” “Just don’t say it anymore,” she said. “It’s like a habit with you. It’s annoying.” Guess what I said?
What she should have said might have been something along the lines of, “You know, it’s okay to be you. I’m not judging you. You don’t have to be sorry about anything. Someone has done a real number on your self-esteem, and I’m not going to do that. You are just fine.” She didn’t, so I had to learn it for myself. I’m still working on that.
(Gotta say, though — not sorry that relationship ended.)
Sorry I sometimes reblog.